Finding Your Calm Revised Edition

Finding Your Calm Revised Edition

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A Responsive Parents Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation

“Parenting peels away the layers of who you try and pretend to be, until only your raw soul is left to bare. From that unprotected state we either begin to heal or lose ourselves in the lost layers of a reality that no longer exists.

Children are authentic and expect the same of those around them. We often don’t realize how detached we have become from our authentic selves, until our children come searching for that lost person. As children do, they keep searching, despite barriers. They demand authenticity and truth.

We so often need to connect with the child inside of us to understand the child in front of us. This book combines my knowledge of child development, brain science and trauma to offer parents a unique resource that includes lots of exercises, reflections and insights.” J. Milburn


This book was written to be an e-book. Parents have been asking and asking for a paperback copy and FINALLY here it is!! This book combines my knowledge of child development, brain science and trauma to offer parents a unique resource that includes lots of exercises, reflections, insights and also… links to additional research, articles and videos that can help support your learning (through the PDF version that is sent to you as well). The hyperlinks remain in the book so you can identify where to connect writing to research and resources.

This book was revised to do some minor edits and reduce the size of the book from 8.5 x 11.5 to 6 x 9. Reducing the size, also reduced the price, a little 🙌

Processing and Shipping: Each book is printed-on-demand, which means each book is printed, individually, as they are ordered. This process can take time. It can take 2-4 weeks for a book to be printed and then another 1-2 weeks to be shipped. Due to this factor I strongly encourage you to consider the production and shipping timeline, when purchasing. It could take between 2-6 weeks to receive your book.

As I have no control over this process and am unable to cancel your order, once it has been submitted, I cannot issue refunds due to shipping and production delays. If you receive a damaged book or you don’t receive a tracking # within 4 weeks, please contact me and I will make sure you get your order.

Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION
- Healing Journey
- Hoping For A Miracle

WHAT IS CO-REGULATION?
- How Do I Share my Calm?

WHY IS SELF REGULATION HARD SOMETIMES?

WHAT ABOUT SUPPRESSING EMOTIONS?
- Emotional Capacity
- Bucket Exercise
- What Does Suppression Look Like?
- Suppression & Trauma

POLYVAGAL THEORY, SUPPRESSION & CO-REGULATION
- What is Polyvagal Theory?

WINDOW OF TOLERANCE
- Somatic Check In
- Vagus Nerve

TRIGGERS
- Are Others Responsible for Triggering Us?
- Identifying & Coping with Triggers
- Away from Suppression
- Disassociation & Avoidance
- Cognitive Dissonance
- Impacts of Mental Health
- Safe Place Visualization
- Head & Heart Exercises

INNER VOICE
- The Connection of Self Regulation & Inner Voice
- What Is Your Inner Voice Saying?
- Validating Yourself
- Self Care
- Inner Child Work
- External to Internal Validation
- Over-Analyzing Instead of Reflecting
- Processing Parent Guilt
- No Regrets!

CO-REGULATION
- Co-Regulation & Suppression
- Reacting To Your Child’s Emotions
- Communicating Emotions without Creating Codependency
- Unconditional Love & Acceptance
- Holding Space
- Co-Regulation Exercises
- Emotional Intelligence Reflection

REFRAMING OUR VIEW OF CHILDREN
- How Will They Learn to Behave?
- Why Aren’t They Listening to Me?
- Coercive Parenting vs. Responsive Parenting
- Reframing Defiance
- Crucial “Lightbulb” Moments of Responsive Parenting
- How Do We Teach Our Children Emotional Intelligence?
- We Will Never be Able to Achieve “Total Responsiveness”

CONCLUSION